Connection over Perfection

Recently, I was recommeded a youtube video names How to Make Cool Sh*T That People Fu*k With. I stayed throughout this video because of the editing and videography, which were pretty cool with fast-paced b-roll. However, the most important thing I extract from the video is.

"people don't fuck with perfection, they fuck with connection"

As a maker and artist at heart who wants to make "Cool shit" that other people fuck with, this encapsulates most of the experiences as a musician and a programmer. While making something that wins over people, you need something that they resonates with. By the term "resonate", it means a thing that moves them, a thing that touch into the subconscious area of the mind. There, perfection hardly exists. Why? because perfection is what our conscious mind prefer and want. For example, when you go to a restaurant, you would prefer something like a "perfect" dining experiences. Your mind craves this since it is convenient for you to have a perfect waiter, a perfect meal, a perfect dining area with quiet customers, and maybe a perfect bathroom. I believe this is why people are so obsess with perfection. It just makes thing easy for them. You can link it to something like a perfect painting, a perfect vacation, or a perfect song. They all hit the checkboxes in your mind and make it easier for you to process as well as enjoy them. Perfection if basically just the comfort zone of your mind.

How about connection? Why do we fuck with that more? I don't have a concrete answer for this but this is common when it comes to the subconscious part of our mind. But honestly, connection is just more fun and exciting. Instead of a generic perfect vacation in Paris or someplace, how about a trip to New Orleans to experiences jazz music with your dad, who has been influencing you with Miles Davis' tones for 10 years. Connection simply touchs upon the deeper level of your mind and experiences. It is more real and authentic while perfection delves into the shallow and convenient part of your mind in enjoying stuffs. To put in simply, perfection is a one-sided thing when you only care about ticking all the checkboxes requirements in your case instead of caring about your audiences. On the other hand, connection is a two or multi-sided concept. You may not tick all the checkboxes, but you show care for other people checkboxes too. What do they want? What do they enjoy? Why would they enjoy it? A great example for this could be a romantic relationship. Flooded on the internet, I always see advises like build the "Build the best version of yourself and the love will come" or some grandiose quote like "Don't waste your time chasing butterflies. Mend your garden, and the butterflies will come." Although I do agree that you should always strive for the best version of yourself first instead of chasing love, I feel like people miss the connecion part in a relationship. When you're dating someone, it will always be a bidirectional connection. You need to embrace the other one's uniqueness and traits instead of just building your own perfect image.

I think this idea is relevant in not just relationship but also any crafts in art, social skills, or maybe just finding the joys in life. You should connect with a human by being a human first, and perfect is definitely not a human traits. Connection relates to self and others while perfection is just selfish.

"Know all the theories Master all the techniques, but as you touch a human soul, be just another human soul." - Carl Jung

Another quote that I stole from the video.

Perfection: A - B Connection: A <-> B

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